Short Term Memory Defense

It's nice to have short term memory for all the bad things. But too much of a good thing don't always turn out to be good, right?

How can you settle those petty arguments when you can't even remember the insults that were said minutes before?

How can you argue fairly if what you remember is selective? Is it a curse or a disease? Either way, i don't think it's much of a blessing.

Forgetting the hate and pain is always good for healing. But forgetting without actually healing, isn't it like running away?

What do you do when you finally realize that you're running away, unintentionally? Would you cut open the wounds again to deal with them once and for all? To remove the embedded bullets? How do you recall the bitter memories that you thought were behind you and can no longer bother you?

Sometimes it feels easier to just shut things out and left it in a messy pile behind us. That is, until something comes up and forces us to return to it. But if possible, there's always the option of just letting it be until it rot away by itself, even if it nips at us once in a while. Now that, maybe I can live with. Sometimes we just develop really thick fort in our minds, where unpleasant things are not welcomed for a long stay and either get kicked out without notice, or dealt with appropriately (how fortunate of it), or just gets thrown in a dark, nearly nonexistent corner until it gets due notice, which is none, and never. Preferably.

I think short term memory may help to forget but not necessarily forgive. It could have been developed through series of very bad experiences, as a way of the brain to stay composed and keep from collapsing. Hit after hit, how long can one withstand the pressure?

The problems that we face, would we know the immediate solution every time? Some takes time, and some takes forever.

Too many questions. Help me solve this.