Your Husband Could Be A Big, Fat, Lying, Cheating Jerk...

...even to the woman he is cheating on you with.

I drank a cup of coffee yesterday afternoon, and another cup in the evening. I was told that coffee stays in your system for up to 8 hours. So tada, here i am, not asleep yet, was watching TV and surfing the internet, one thing led to another, and suddenly feeling the need to write this.

Not all the other women is a total b***h. Sometimes both the wife and mistress (es) get fooled by the guy. In the end, both become victims. But hey, this doesn't apply to all you girls out there who knows you are ruining a marriage/relationship, but still go on with it anyway, and worse still, there is not an ounce of sincere guilt in you. You are even proud about being that kind of person.

This is a story some of you out there can relate to. Your husband could tell you stories, 'honest confessions' (ha-ha) was what it appeared to be. That he was cheating on you, with a woman, and they planned to get married quietly. Why was he telling you all these lies? From an angle, people might look at him as though maybe he is not such a player after all, when he is trying to shoulder some responsibility for that woman. People might think of him as brave and honest, for confessing to his wife. He was pushing you to a limit, trying to make you accept the harsh reality, so that you will have no choice but to let him do what he wants to do. And you did, up to an extent, though. But now, surely you are not facing that kind of 'honest' lies anymore (hopefully he has repented).

Yes to you jerk.

Because that woman, who he 'planned to get married with quietly', is not that kind of woman. She felt the guilt in her heart, although that may be hard for some of you to believe, given your own experience maybe. But she would never, to the best that she could, let herself be that kind of woman. She knew better than that. She doesn't want to live a marriage built on the ruins of another marriage. The only reason she could accept that situation is if it happens because it is meant to be. And if it happens, the marriage will happen properly, not quietly. It was enough that the man did not care at all for her dignity in front of other people (and he was real good at pretending to be her protector), why would she allow him to mistreat her any further right?

So my friend, if you know that that misunderstanding still exist until today, please help to clear it up. This is not to open up old scars. It was already unfair enough for her before, but to be even more misunderstood like that, no. If you feel that the time is right or there is a need to tell, let the person who should know, knows. That the jerk was a bigger jerk that she probably knew, and that the other woman should be less hateful to her than her cheating husband. When she left him, all kind of truths came out and she was thankful for knowing about them. The wife, though she knew that her husband was bad, probably didn't know any better and how bad, but hopefully now lives in peace and happiness, even though her husband is once a manipulative jerk.

A quote to keep in mind.

To the males out there, please be a good person. You have a mother, sisters, aunts, if you are married you probably have a daughter too. Don't treat women the way that you would not want the women/girls you care about in your life to be treated. 

To the girls, if you are ever caught up in these kind of situations, please try to do the right thing. We know that things will happen the way God has planned it, but then don't use this reason as an excuse when you choose to be selfish and wreck someone else's relationship (even worse, intentionally), when you can simply just walk away from it.

Because every woman deserves a faithful relationship and not get her heart broken.

P/s: i know there are bad women out there who probably deserve jerks, but i just want to end this post with a good note.